Saturday, July 26, 2008

Sensitivity Analysis

I'm not sure what's been going on with me lately, but I have been unhealthily obsessed with my relationships to other people. I have been worried that they don't like me, they think I'm stupid, lazy, and a No Talent Ass Clown. Where do these voices come from? I know I have been laying low for the past few months, not maximizing my spare time, and taking time to watch more TV than any one human being should watch in their I don't think my paranoia is completely unfounded.
What I need to come to grips with is having a healthy balance of caring about what other people think to the point where I'm not completely offending and pissing everyone off, but not caring so much that it consumes me to the point of debilitation.
What my problem is, I fear failure so much that I don't try as hard and end up being mediocre. This wasn't me 3 years ago. 3 years ago I was a fearless pre-exec with nothing but enthusiasm and a dream. Once I landed the dream job, I met some failures, some successes, and ultimately I left because my education and marriage was on the rocks.
I was able to save my marriage and my education is almost over, so why do I still feel like a loser? Not sure. I know I have found a job in which my strengths, talents, and creativity will have close to infinite possibilities. I will be working for a Catholic University in which I am held to high moral and ethical standards, my children's education will be free at any one of the Jesuit universities around the country including Notre Dame, I will be able to expose students to new knowledge, ideas, and challenge them to be productive, conscientious members of society. I love my new job even though it hasn't started yet.
I am tired of living in fear of the people who think I will fail. Maybe they do and maybe they don't, but I have to be able to articulate my vision and execute it. I thought at one time that I wanted to be a marketing manager for Company X, but that is no longer where I want to be. I could be making twice what I'm going to make as a university instructor, but my quality of life is too important; to know that at 31 is priceless. I am making this decision early on in my life and career so that I can continue to reinforce it time and time again to myself and my children when I have them.
Once again, God has presented me with a career that directly incorporates self-discovery both for myself and for my constituents. I took a strengths assessment for the class I will be teaching and here they are:

The Strategic theme enables you to sort through the clutter and find the best route. It is not a skill that can be taught. It is a distinct way of thinking, a special perspective on the world at large. This perspective allows you to see patterns where others simply see complexity. Mindful of these patterns, you play out alternative scenarios, always asking, “What if this happened? Okay, well what if this happened?” This recurring question helps you see around the next corner. There you can evaluate accurately the potential obstacles. Guided by where you see each path leading, you start to make selections. You discard the paths that lead nowhere. You discard the paths that lead straight into resistance. You discard the paths that lead into a fog of confusion. You cull and make selections until you arrive at the chosen path—your strategy. Armed with your strategy, you strike forward. This is your Strategic theme at work: “What if?” Select. Strike.

You are inquisitive. You collect things. You might collect information—words, facts, books, and quotations—or you might collect tangible objects such as butterflies, baseball cards, porcelain dolls, or sepia photographs. Whatever you collect, you collect it because it interests you. And yours is the kind of mind that finds so many things interesting. The world is exciting precisely because of its infinite variety and complexity. If you read a great deal, it is not necessarily to refine your theories but, rather, to add more information to your archives. If you like to travel, it is because each new location offers novel artifacts and facts. These can be acquired and then stored away. Why are they worth storing? At the time of storing it is often hard to say exactly when or why you might need them, but who knows when they might become useful? With all those possible uses in mind, you really don’t feel comfortable throwing anything away. So you keep acquiring and compiling and filing stuff away. It’s interesting. It keeps your mind fresh. And perhaps one day some of it will prove valuable.

“When can we start?” This is a recurring question in your life. You are impatient for action. You may concede that analysis has its uses or that debate and discussion can occasionally yield some valuable insights, but deep down you know that only action is real. Only action can make things happen. Only action leads to performance. Once a decision is made, you cannot not act. Others may worry that “there are still some things we don’t know,” but this doesn’t seem to slow you. If the decision has been made to go across town, you know that the fastest way to get there is to go stoplight to stoplight. You are not going to sit around waiting until all the lights have turned green. Besides, in your view, action and thinking are not opposites. In fact, guided by your Activator theme, you believe that action is the best device for learning. You make a decision, you take action, you look at the result, and you learn. This learning informs your next action and your next. How can you grow if you have nothing to react to? Well, you believe you can’t. You must put yourself out there. You must take the next step. It is the only way to keep your thinking fresh and informed. The bottom line is this: You know you will be judged not by what you say, not by what you think, but by what you get done. This does not frighten you. It pleases you.

You like to explain, to describe, to host, to speak in public, and to write. This is your Communication theme at work. Ideas are a dry beginning. Events are static. You feel a need to bring them to life, to energize them, to make them exciting and vivid. And so you turn events into stories and practice telling them. You take the dry idea and enliven it with images and examples and metaphors. You believe that most people have a very short attention span. They are bombarded by information, but very little of it survives. You want your information—whether an idea, an event, a product’s features and benefits, a discovery, or a lesson—to survive. You want to divert their attention toward you and then capture it, lock it in. This is what drives your hunt for the perfect phrase. This is what draws you toward dramatic words and powerful word combinations. This is why people like to listen to you. Your word pictures pique their interest, sharpen their world, and inspire them to act.

Your Individualization theme leads you to be intrigued by the unique qualities of each person. You are impatient with generalizations or “types” because you don’t want to obscure what is special and distinct about each person. Instead, you focus on the differences between individuals. You instinctively observe each person’s style, each person’s motivation, how each thinks, and how each builds relationships. You hear the one-of-a-kind stories in each person’s life. This theme explains why you pick your friends just the right birthday gift, why you know that one person prefers praise in public and another detests it, and why you tailor your teaching style to accommodate one person’s need to be shown and another’s desire to “figure it out as I go.” Because you are such a keen observer of other people’s strengths, you can draw out the best in each person. This Individualization theme also helps you build productive teams. While some search around for the perfect team “structure” or “process,” you know instinctively that the secret to great teams is casting by individual strengths so that everyone can do a lot of what they do well.

OK, I feel better now.

~Tremenda Trigueña~

1 comment:

Joke said...

You are liked. Now exhale. :)